As a boy, it was extremely important for me to enter any tough situation with what I called an “Alternative“–a choice of Thing B or even C, in case Thing A did not work out. Perhaps this came about because of what our family had to do to get through the Great Depression. Nothing was thrown away because some part of it could be used to repair or replace something else. We would never eat all we had but saved some food in case we could not get enough food for the next meal. Back then, I used ‘Alternative’ in its sense of choosing one of any number. But since then, I learned it can mean: not ones first choice; changing something into other than what it was; “one of two” and never in any other sense; and making a serious choice. Choice implies more freedom, including making no choice. The point: definitions in readily available dictionaries are simply a matter of someone’s or a culture’s opinion—never yours. In dealing with the life-changing/life-shaping, I almost always find none of their options are correct. With much research in having published 26 Afrocentric Etymological term dictionaries, I put no stock in any other available dictionary definitions. The same applies to “experts”/“authorities’” alleged profound sayings. For example, one said: “choice is not always good since too many can overwhelm people in trying to make a decision in selecting one. A reason is their expectations skyrocket in looking for and wanting to get the ‘perfect’ one. This statement seems just the opposite to common sense whereby people think the more choices the better.” He concluded: “the secret to happiness is Low expectations from few choices or having realistic expectations.” That is quite narrow!
Allow me to give a background before assessing the “expert’s” statement. First, “All words are born equal and without meaning until someone gives each a meaning.” And then, multiple problems begin with Denotations/Connotations of that word, each declaring a different or nuanced word meaning as the only right one. Dealing with resultant confusion, conflicts, and ambiguity is typical in research for all of my Afrocentric Dictionaries (numbering 600+ pages each). My introduction to such total chaos by “experts”/“authorities” came during my Genetics fellowship at Baltimore, Md’s Johns Hopkins Hospital. On the first day, I saw ten Dwarfs who had been named “Achondroplasia”. But in contrast to nine, the nose of the ten was “parrot-beaked”–and that caused me to investigate further. By so doing, I discovered an entirely new syndrome. An ongoing discovery experience was of new syndromes being distinguished from what was falsely believed to be a single syndrome. For instance, I distinguished many dwarf syndromes from the group improperly called Achondroplasia, itself a wrong term for the real syndrome. Thereafter, in researching the nine known Dwarfisms, I had all of the world’s literature on it translated and discovered all of it was wrong. A major reason came from my discovery that the same Dwarf condition had vastly different names and the same name was applied to vastly different syndromes. Dwarfs’ mis-naming came from early Modern Medicine giving Eponyms to them—perhaps from the name of a drug, structure, or disease based on or derived from the name of a person, the discoverer, patients, cities, hospitals, institutions, or a literary character.
A word, like the Cosmos, is a dimension, itself likened to a Star—with rays going in all directions, with each effecting different Earth parts. To speak of problems with too many choices producing one to be overwhelmed implies their emotions are doing the confusion by dealing with only certain rays related to the Dimension. When faced with a Thoughtful problem or issue, all rays, of its Dimension ought to be considered in order to make as many Options, even ‘weird’ ones, as possible for choices, decisions, and solutions. This means emotions have no place. I always by-pass all “Likes/Dislikes” and instead decide what is the best thing needing to be done for the “ME/WE”. From all viable Options/Alternatives, I choose the top three most likely to give the best Effects/Results–and with the fewest and easiest to overcome problematic Consequences. So, the most “workable” for the situation at hand, with respect to the people having to carry out the task, the resources available, the time limits, and likely to give the best rippling benefits–for the longest time–for the most people who need it the most, is my Plan A. The next most likely to work best is Plan B, and then comes Plan C. The point: “just because they say it is true and right, does not make it so. Discover True/Right for yourself!!!