During ancient times, the idea for “Manners” originated from concepts of the handiwork monkeys and humans could design with their hands. Since hands were naturally suited to fashioning crafts, the making of those items in a habitual style implied those crafts were easily managed. Thus, the word “Manners” (C12, hand) meant a method of ‘handling’ something and the way something is performed—either good or bad; then included different ways of handling a technique; then the method of “handling” something—especially if done in a controlled, skillful, artful, or shrewd way—as by manipulation. In c1200 AD, “Manners” indicated different ways humans handled things naturally suited to them, as in relating to peers–ranging from acquaintances to intimate friends. Primitive barbaric Eurasians and Europeans warrior beginnings, interpenetrated with savage hostility, always geared to conflict, meant their highest people interactions were Civility. This was simply avoiding their confused ideas of being rude, which still have not changed. Out of barbarism arose the Feudal System—obligations binding lords and their subjects (900-1300 AD)–which, in turn, gave rise to the Age of Chivalry–the codes of knights, which characterized Renaissance “Barbarism Gentlemen.” These knights were supposed to be courteous with each other, but keep a social distance with those of lower class. And yet they fought each other for the “sport of it.” Eventually, such different codes of proper or improper behavior in handling people–either with closeness or staying at a social distance–fell into the realm of Etiquette. To be distinguished were Manners—i.e. habitual ways of behaving toward or before individuals, regardless of their social rank. Western Etiquette, a reflection of ones personality concerning false appearances, shaped solely by ones peer group socialization, is the social code of seeming to have good taste within a given clique (a close knit group inside a larger group)—a sham!
By C14, these concepts expanded into a reflection of ones Moral Character, as in shaping of ones own external behaviors according to the mold of society’s standards; and, later, to proper ways of handling affairs and people. The Renaissance (C15-C16) introduced new eating instruments, like forks. Since fingers were considered unclean, forks were honored as an instrument of spirituality . As a result, an emphasis on Manners was reawakened among non-Puritans, as shown by an outpouring of “Manners books” serving as manuals of devotion. This Western religious elevation of Manners and gestures–called Civility (Alliances, Liaisons)–reflected ones individualistic worldview. It was displayed by a mask of congeniality designed to hide ones opposing true thoughts, emotions, and crudeness. It included a group of people’s customs in eating, playing, worshiping different gods. Although based on no written law, those ignorant of the requirements or who refused to follow family, community, or country tradition of good mannerly form tended to be pushed aside by the public and ignored. Also, non-conforming youth had their leadership qualities overlooked. Just as Etiquette peaked in the Age of Chivalry and Manners, during C15-C16, strict religious codes were featured during C16-C17 English Protestant Puritans times. Assuming the direction in which education starts a child, paving a way for his/her future life, Puritans said Good Manners express forms of self-control, with its inward stability and integration; that a person’s ability to control bodily functions and decorum (outward signs the public could see) displayed an inner state of grace; and anything people did in their lives, no matter how routine or small, registered significance and meaning with God .
All of this was hypocritical, as shown by African Americans’ slavery evils done by European Puritans, prostitutes, paupers, religious dissenters, and waifs who came to the Americas. Also, with going to the Americas being a condition for convicts “booted out” of prisons (especially from British Isles), together these Brutes imparted coded Manners. Highest regards and attention were given to top leaders; civility to the “Troops” and their families; and delighting in evil-manners, for Enslaved Africans. Such included “beating the Spirits” out of their feigned enemies “for no reason”–to generate monstrous pain/suffering. Less brutal Secular peoplebase manners/ethics on imitating their Crowd members to those ethnically unlike them. They parcel out their unrelenting socialized hate-filled horrible manners/ethics in stereotyped Satanist ways.